Even in the objectivity of life, we are driven by what we feel. We cannot separate the two. It is the drive to be a part of the whole in a subjective way.

In times withered by the cultural wears of life’s everyday undertakings and habits, speaking our truth can be a revelation. If the majority of what we speak is subconscious, or how we act is subconsciously mirroring our thought patterns, addressing the accommodation aspect that was imbibed into my psyche, as I was growing up, is a hard task that I am currently in wares with on the daily. It is the people pleaser in me that will probably be forever assessing what it means to have boundaries, what those boundaries are and if trusting those boundaries are warranted. In doing this I have noticed a pattern creeping up, in my wiser days. The pattern of feeling truly fulfilled after speaking a truth that seems to resonate with me. It’s interesting that this truth becomes holy known as authentic in nature because of the feeling that springs up in lieu of it.  It it feels as if I’ve been holding onto hot burning coals without even knowing it and finally dropping them.

 Emotional resilience lies in this comfortability of circumstances unknown.

“Taking care of your body is important, but tending to your relationships is a form of self-care too. That, I think, is the revelation,”

(Waldinger, 2023)

Many people will have specific and permanent physical hinderances in life that will divert them from goals or dreams they have previously made, while possibly creating bias towards adapting our views. about what it means to be successful. And sadly, could be living with a deep sense failure because of it.

When we vilify passion and emotion in society we vilify our ability to speak from a place of authenticity. 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world.” 

Marianne Williamson 

As I sit here on a Friday afternoon, sipping my coffee and pondering the idea to begin a book series, my mind wanders, in regards to selling out and creating an environment of being on the outside of group acceptance as a whole.

I consciously dive into a conversation where I reprimanded a friend with her outbursts within a group I facilitate and my mind flashes to worst case scenarios for doing this, as the group is already small in attendance and this will possibly dwindle the group even further. I keep asking myself “Should I care about this at all?”, and come to the conclusion that focusing on the members who show up consistently, willing and ready to do the work, is the ultimate reward. Even if there are just a few attendees. It still matters.  Quality over quantity, is one of my value driven motivators in life. Switching up the conscious collective of ‘more is better’. 

We all want to be heard and understood and while facilitating and being a part of myriad of different meet up groups, I have had more than a few circumstances that have come up, that have tested my ability to speak in a way I could feel good about. I have more recently been able to let go of the shame behind sitting through heated discussion and get to the part where we come to what truly is bothering us, but this of course has come with trial and error, and one circumstance, has stood out to me as a lesson. I remember learning about what it taught me in my undergrad as a communications major. I remember getting into arguments with family members as a twenty something college student, often repeating myself in a furry of anger, of course to no avail, as my family dismissed most of what I was talking about, as family often does, in heated squabbles.

As the world grows ever more encompassed by social media and scrolling, while fueling the ADHD brain, our new experiences, & relationships are filled with such heightened emotional reverence it can make anyone swoon with delight and be in constant search of the unknown…

Why do we procrastinate? Is it just a spiral of boredom, or is it our need for respite? Can boredom guide us to an intuitive hit of the creative? I believe it can and often does.

Can you feel truly blessed and grateful and still desire more for yourself?

This is a question I have broached with the ever changing inter-webs, the universe and a myriad of random people on Reddit and Quora over the years. Here’s what I’ve found…

What is the path of least resistance in creating long lasting habits? Can reflection and giving pause in life, address underlying beliefs that lead to healthy habits?

Can positivity really turn toxic? When it’s amassed within a culture that emphasises ‘hustle’ I believe it can.

I recently read a blog post on LinkedIn of someone I follow, who has influenced my life in a big way within organizational leadership standards and what I studied through my masters program.

How can the life lessons of surfing extend their reach far beyond the somatic?

An intuitive approach to surfing

In this guided step by step tutorial, I explain the ways in which our heart and mind space connect, not only to each other but to the far reaches of the vast planetary ecosystem, we are all a part of during times of movement.

Life’s trajectory & the storylines we create are often defined by our repetitive internal narrative.  

In my early twenties, following a traumatic event involving my boss while working at a cafe, I acquired insomnia. Not the kind that comes and goes, the kind that stays for years, fuelled by sleep performance anxiety. Night after night, the more I tried to sleep, the less I did. It turned into a fear of sleeping, all because of a job, I dreaded waking up to.

How to get to the fun part - joy, contentment and living in the moment.  

it’s easier than you might think.